May 8, 2017 Matthew

Life Is Harder on Men

Life is harder on men and God intended it to be that way. Because they’re worse than women. I leave the second part out of the title to let the hypocrites grind their teeth at. If life weren’t harder on men, the world would’ve never survived unto today. We know that women live longer than men. Well, it was God who shortened our life-spans (Gen. 6:3). And he shortened our life-spans because if he didn’t we would have grown to be just as corrupt as the people before the flood. And that is truly a world you do not want to be a part of. Thus, He did it for our sake and, obviously, he shortened men’s lives just a little more than women’s. I imagine he would have shortened them even more than he did except that children needed parents to survive and parents needed grandparents to have stability. God saw that that was sufficient. Sufficient for the human cycle of life to continue on this planet. It was a salvage plan to keep humans, the children of God, coming. Even the institution of marriage was a salvage plan. There needed to be a covenant between the husband and wife to keep the marriage continuing and thus life on earth perpetuating. That institution of marriage spread as humanity spread across the earth. It took on varying forms but has remained intact. So far the salvage plan has worked: we are here. In all the wonder and beauty of the wedding there’s nothing like the marriage contract to tell us how bad we are. The whole world has been in this salvage plan of God ever since, awaiting the day of its renewal when marriage is no longer necessary and when God no longer has to beat sense into men and cut down their lives. Think of the disease we would have grown into had God let us live forever in our sin.

And who would’ve thought—to say life is harder on men is considered hate speech. I have been coming to terms with that reality since launching this site. To champion men, address the crisis they are in, and show them they have value is categorized as hate speech in today’s corrupt social economy, even though I love and respect women and I appreciate them in countless ways. But like God’s love which seeks to keep us from evil, my love for women means I’ll do whatever I can to keep them from evil—even if that means the possibility of severe retaliation and hostility from them. And it has. It didn’t take long after starting this ministry to receive vitriolic and cursing comments in response to the idea of “biblical manhood” and that was long before writing anything about feminism. What many don’t realize because they are all too quick to judge a site by a handful of titles (which are often a play on words for the very reason of stirring things up, because that’s just what I do) is that I am also against masculinism. It’s quite the challenge to convey that you do not support a male-centric worldview when you focus a ministry on men. Movements focused on identities are called separatist movements. The Civil Rights movement was not a separatist movement. The Black Power movement was. Martin Luther King wanted to cooperate with whites. The Black Power movement wanted to maim them. Which one worked? Which one achieved a unity? The men’s rights movement, the women’s movement, the feminist movement, the Red Pill movement, the MGTOW movement—all these movements are incorrectly aimed and I do not support any of them because they can never in a million years achieve harmony, unity, or solidarity between all. They are about as unequal as unequal gets. They can only bring more discord and destruction as they are doing. How do I know this? The identity labels are sufficient. But neither has there been one iota of accord between the sides, ever. God made us male and female. Beyond that no more categories are given. The highest and most powerful level of human unity is when men and women get along. The apostle Paul started the Christian church with the words,

Nevertheless, in the Lord woman is not independent of man nor man of woman; for as woman was made from man, so man is now born of woman. And all things are from God. (1 Cor. 11:11-12)

It means that God set a unity into motion that was intended to go round and round like a harmonious dance. The unity itself would be a new, glorious thing altogether: Adam. What is this thing called “Adam”? This thing, mankind?

Male and female created he them; and blessed them, and called their name Adam, in the day when they were created. (Gen 5:2 KJV)

What is this “Adam”, this humanity? It is male and femaleNot male or female. It was something that could not exist without both dancing together. Today that dance has been lost, and this thing, Adam, seems nowhere to be found. Where did Adam go?

This ministry is about rallying men to get up and fight for others. It’s about getting them to stop serving and living for themselves and start giving a damn about the welfare of their wives, their families, and their neighbors. If this means fighting against destructive values and lies that hold those whom we love captive, then we do it. We do it even if it kills us. If God hated us he would tell us, “Do whatever you want. I could care less because I actually want to see you rot in your filth and die.” Misogyny would say just that to women. The real spirit of this ministry is not apologetics or a defense of manhood. That would only defeat the purpose. The real purpose is recapturing the manhood that lives and dies for women, children, and our neighbors. To revive a 2500 year old cry,

And I looked and arose and said to the nobles and to the officials and to the rest of the people, “Do not be afraid of them. Remember the Lord, who is great and awesome, and fight for your brothers, your sons, your daughters, your wives, and your homes.” (Neh. 4:14)

It encourages and reminds women that certain roles are necessary to make the dance and sustain humanity. Woman is not independent of man, nor man of woman. This is as equal as equal gets, and such a statement is found in no other religious literature, anywhere. When we stop fighting for ourselves and against each other and start fighting for each other, then you will see a revival of humanity. Adam will suddenly show up and God will say, “Ah, there you are.”

I’ve come to the realization that in order for manhood to be more properly understood it needs to be seen under the concept of “oneness” that I have always advocated for in my writing on the subject. Oneness is the wholly new thing that comes into existence when two or more parts combine. It a logical result. Notice how the world spends all its time setting apart everything and everyone. Holiness is “set apart” by definition and belongs to God alone. When you set apart men from women or women from men you end up in a battle of holiness—who’s holier than who? Trying to find equality of holiness between men and women as independent creatures is about as productive as cleaning up an oil spill with cotton swabs. They can never be seen correctly by themselves. They must be seen as part of a whole—Adam.

This has led me to relaunch the site as The True Man and begin working on my next book on biblical womanhood, Gentle: The True Woman.

 

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