And there were going on with him great multitudes, and having turned, he said unto them, “If any one doth come unto me, and doth not hate his own father, and mother, and wife, and children, and brothers, and sisters, and yet even his own life, he is not able to be my disciple;”
Luke 14:26 YLT
The word for “life” in this text is not physical life (bios) or the light of life (zoe), but the personal soul life (psuché). This saying of Jesus is not a plain saying for it was spoken to a crowd, and Christ never spoke to the crowds plainly,
All these things Jesus spoke to the crowds in parables, and He did not speak to them without a parable. Matt. 13:34 NASB
Jesus spoke in one of his many tongues. The family he spoke of—father/mother/children/brothers/sisters/and one’s old life—is that of the Harlot. The Present Body of Death. The Church becomes a “wife” that a man “marries” and becomes one with in the flesh. Children are those who would be “offspring” followers. Brothers and sisters are those who are also born of this Woman, Hagar. Yes it is the adulterous church, which is at enmity with God (James 4:4) and unless you despise it and repent and get out of there, you cannot be Christ’s disciple. It does not mean leaving your biological family, but rather taking them out of there with you! Now, when Jesus speaks to his disciples he is no longer speaking a tongue:
His disciples said, “Ah, now you are speaking plainly and not using figurative speech! John 16:29 ESV
That is how we can makes sense of these other verses,
“You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ “But I say to you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, so that you may be sons of your Father who is in heaven; Matt. 5:43-45
Love the enemy you hate. Because it is this Present Church that persecutes Jesus’ disciples, we pray for them because they are now our neighbor, brothers and sisters, and enemies. Adultery is enmity against God (James 4:4), we are sons of God (John 1:12 YLT), and the Present Christian Church is a harlot who has left her first love.
When you hate the Harlot and become a disciple of Christ you have a new Family, the Body of Promise. You have new brothers and sisters:
7 Beloved, may we love one another, because the love is of God, and every one who is loving, of God he hath been begotten, and doth know God; 8 he who is not loving did not know God, because God is love. 9 In this was manifested the love of God in us, because His Son — the only begotten — hath God sent to the world, that we may live through him; 10 in this is the love, not that we loved God, but that He did love us, and did send His Son a propitiation for our sins. 11 Beloved, if thus did God love us, we also ought one another to love; 12 God no one hath ever seen; if we may love one another, God in us doth remain, and His love is having been perfected in us; 13 in this we know that in Him we do remain, and He in us, because of His Spirit He hath given us. 14 And we — we have seen and do testify, that the Father hath sent the Son — Saviour of the world;
20 if any one may say — ‘I love God,’ and his brother he may hate, a liar he is; for he who is not loving his brother whom he hath seen, God — whom he hath not seen — how is he able to love? 21 and this [is] the command we have from Him, that he who is loving God, may also love his brother.
1 John 4:7-21 YLT